I've always been outspoken about driving while impaired. Don't do it.
But it doesn't stop at just saying, "Don't do it." Talk to your family members and make it clear that home safe is better than dead. We'll deal with the how and the why and trouble and grounding and all that...once we're home safe and alive to deal with it! So, parents, talk to your kids. It's not just about assigning a Designated Driver. It's about giving them their power to say, "Hey, dude, you were supposed to stay sober and you didn't. Lemme call my parents." And teens, it's about standing your ground. No matter what, don't get in the car if you feel the driver is impaired. Sure, your mom's "gonna kill you", but in the morning...she'll be glad you're alive to yell at and ground until you're 23.
I'm a parent of a 16 year old. I've been very fortunate to have him home with me for schooling, where I've been able to impart so much of my values and prevent the typical peer pressure from causing permanent injuries. But I'm not blind. My son *will* drink....eventually. Probably before he's legal. I don't want to compound such an event with the tragedy. I've talked to Nick about this: call home. Call a cab. Don't fret the grounding---get home alive!
Parents. Kids. Talk. Please. Angry and grounded is always better than dead....or wishing you were dead!
I just read an article from the Times in London which has me shivering.
The parts that concern me follow (with my pithy comments after each quote):
Excuse me? People are out of work, the ecomony is tanking, banks are failing...and the entire country is going to watch the tragedy of a teen-age girl marrying her boyfriend because she got pregnant?
Respectable age??? Uhm, when I got married in 1990, I was 20 years and 6months old...and everyone said I was too young! And there's concern the bride might not want to walk down the aisle too close to her delivery date.... People, the cat's out of the bag. It doesn't matter when the wedding happens, we already know why it's happening. (And frankly, considering all else that's going on, I really don't give a damn, except to point out the utter failure of abstinence-only education!)
Is it a sign of how the Republican campaign had no good choices that the potential for scandal inherent in this pregnancy wasn't enough to keep Palin off the ticket? Or is it sad that this tragedy (a pregnant teen) had to be made public knowledge to get the public's eye off the possiblity that the exact same teen had already been pregnant and the family was passing her child off as her sibling?
This is funny? How? Forcing two people to marry because politics demands it??? What's next, marrying off Meghan McCain to Prince Harry? Or perhaps to someone in the Middle East to cement relations with the US?
It's clear to many people that teens having babies is not good. Not good for the teens. Not good for the babies. Why would any parent compound this situation by pushing or forcing their child into a marriage they may not want or be ready for?
I've quoted that one out of order because I want to highlight the last four words: support her pregnant daughter. Let me say this: When you stand opposed to making sure your daughter is competent in preventing pregnancy and STDS (by being against any real sex education) and you stand opposed to abortion, you have no choice but to support your pregnant daughter!
As for the wedding, I hope this young woman is not going to suffer too much for her mother's political interests. And I truly do hope her wedding is a very private affair---that the country doesn't literally come to a stop because a teenage girl marries the father of her coming baby.